– Relationship Counseling for the Lonely

Last Updated on October 21, 2015 by Chris Roberts

USING RELATIONSHIP THERAPY IN NASHVILLE, TN TO HELP YOU BUILD CONFIDENCE

It would seem that people looking for relationship counseling in Nashville are those currently in a relationship and usually in a relationship that is not functioning well.  This definitely does happen frequently.  But there is also a use for relationship counseling with a person who is not currently coupled and wants to better understand what has happened in the past that has landed them in their current situation.  What needs to be said at this point is this: It is not better or best to be in a relationship.  For some people, they do not carry within them a burning desire to be with another person.  What I am talking about in this article are people who are not currently coupled, but feel lonely and are teetering on the edge of despair and hopelessness for ever finding love again.  If you are single and long to be in a relationship, there may be no greater agony and ache within a person’s soul.  The loneliness and fear can be overwhelming.  There is also nothing wrong with this feeling either!

Relationship therapy in Nashville, TN can be extremely helpful for this latter group of people.  The burning desire to be in a committed, comfortable relationship with a loved one is a pang that can be felt at every turn.  Commercials, movies, coffee shops all seem to be brimming with love and happily coupled people.  When you are in a healthy relationship, it’s hard to remember what it was like to be alone.  When you are alone and lonely, it seems like everyone else is living life in a world outside the one you know.  There can be an extremely devastating cycle of loneliness and self-deprecation that feeds on itself.  A person must be willing to interrupt that self-defeating cycle if they want to find any chance of being and falling in love again.

There are many psychologists who believe the connection established in relationship counseling can be a reparative experience of learning to hope and believe in relationships again.  But more than this, relationship therapy can be a place where people gain a greater understanding of the things they can and can’t actually control in the midst of being with another person.  As a person becomes more aware and more equipped with how to better be with people, they gain a confidence that the world is not so scary a place and that the mistakes they made in the past were all part of a larger story of their life.  Part of the self-defeating cycle of loneliness says that we have done too much wrong and that there is ultimately too much wrong with us, to ever be in love again.  There is a fantastic song by David Wilcox entitled, “That’s What the Lonely is For.”  It’s an entirely hopeful and upside down version of loneliness.  It begs us to flirt with the idea that our loneliness is actually calling us ever forward into something bigger and better than what we already have.

If you have begun to feel that your loneliness is getting the better of you, then it may be helpful to give relationship counseling in Nashville a try.  There are many fantastic Nashville relationship counselors.  At Two Trees Counseling Nashville, Chris Roberts is an experienced relationship therapist who would love to walk with you through this journey, or point you in the direction of another therapist who would best fit your needs.

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